Dear “Bossy Black Woman",

As young girls we are taught that a man and woman can be doing the same thing but a man is the boss and a woman is just bossy.

“Sometimes, the more success you have, the more threatening you appear.”

Dear “Bossy Black Woman”,

You know exactly what you want from life and won’t settle for anything less. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that!

Women are trained to ask for what we want instead of taking it. Indoctrinated into a culture of permission. That time has now passed. Be the boss and OWN IT.

Believe in yourself

Like any ambitious person, continue to set high standards for yourself. And sometimes, the expectations can be as high as the sky. When things don’t turn out as expected, you might start doubting yourself. So, ladies if you want to be a successful boss, believe in yourself and exude nothing but confidence in every breath you take.

Always stick to your guns

YOU ARE A BOSS, and your ability to spot opportunities will determine your journey. If you spot any opportunity, no matter if you are prepared for it or not, just do it.

Embrace the hate

While you’re out here shattering ceilings, climbing the ladder of success and growth, not everyone will like it. There will always be haters trying to dim your light. Keep things in perspective, don’t take the hate personally and run your own race.

Be a learner for life

Learning will never go out of style - Period. You might believe you have all the knowledge in the world but sometimes even the wisest need to do some learning. This is 2020 and EVERYTHING is changing - new methods, technologies, business trends are a few to name. Ask any successful person for an advice, most of them will ask you to learn at least one thing everyday. Humility and willingness to learn are the keys to successful.

Redefine yourself

The image you hold of yourself determines the level of success you would achieve. As a young ambitious woman, you might have to go through quick spiritual growth. Don’t hold yourself or restrict to any stereotypes, genres or personality-types. To be on the right track, you might need to redefine yourself and your priorities every now and then. You need to develop an understanding that your decisions have the power to change not only yours but the life of others as well. And that’s some incredible power.

Be bold in your emotions

A woman is the only creature that can gather all the emotions in one moment.

“She stood in the storm and when the wind did not blow her way, she adjusted her sails”.
- Elizabeth Edwards

It’s okay to not be okay

We all know that even when you’re a strong woman fear can surface anytime anywhere. Fear can take many forms, for some it can be the fear of losing and for others it can be not knowing what do. It is okay to be afraid to be scared. Vulnerable is the new strong.

You don’t need perfection

Boss women typically have this streak of perfectionism in their minds. Their definition of good enough is ‘par excellence’ of average people. When they can’t match up to their own expectations, they feel disappointed, frustrated and often distressed.

Always remember, If you wait for everything to be perfect, you will end up waiting forever.

Darling, stay strong and make them wonder how you handled it.